How To Conquer Dreams and Fears: A Guide to Confidence
5 Simple Steps To Climb the Mountain of Your Dreams
It’s a crisp morning. And you are standing at the foot of the mountain you’ve always wanted to climb.
The cold air punches your lungs. And you feel the long-awaited moment has finally arrived. But then, instead of excitement, you’re overwhelmed by fears and insecurities.
“What if I will fail? What if I am not strong enough to climb it?” – you think.
So you turn back, set your dreams aside, and hope tomorrow will be better. And the cycle never ends.
Does this story resonate with your dreams and goals? Then, this newsletter is for you.
How To Climb a Mountain
Everyone has a mountain to climb. But your mindset and beliefs could change its height and difficulty.
Some days, those mountains seem taller. Other times, they are smaller. Your insecurities have the power to magnify or reduce their size. But if you lose faith and give up on your dreams, you will never conquer your fears.
When you are insecure, you don’t trust your abilities to achieve the goal. So you will ramble in circles, trying to make everything perfect. But the more you try, the worse it gets.
You must free yourself from those fears to achieve your goals. And even when you do, succeeding once isn’t enough.
You need a system that can always help you climb the mountain. So, let’s build a template and train with it as if we were in a climbing gym.
5 Simple Steps to Conquer Your Dreams
You are at the bottom of your dream mountain. How can you get to the top if you have never climbed before?
If I were you, I would start warming up by trying the few first meters first. Here, I could gather and polish my gear. And then, I would get to the next step, where the mountain is steeper.
I would proceed in careful steps. So here are at least five I would never want to skip:
Gather all your motivation
Identify the secure steps
Take a break at each step
Take care of your mental strength
And reach the peak of the mountain
Let’s analyze each one in depth.
1 – Gather all your motivation.
One of the best preparatory exercises you can do is visualization. And if you can see yourself on the top of the mountain, it can help you pump up and recharge your confidence. And it might give you the push that forces you to start climbing.
If you fear you can’t do it, the first step will always be the most challenging. But if you force yourself to take action, the rest will be smoother.
So visualize your goal and gather all your motivation. You are still at the bottom of the mountain. But believe you will climb it soon.
Here are some other exercises you could try:
Repeat positive affirmations about your success and abilities.
Share your goals with trusted people who can encourage you.
Minimize the challenges. You want to get going, so ignore all the possible problems now.
2 – Identify the secure steps.
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started” – Mark Twain.
Once you start, you must identify secure steps to recollect your breath.
In the beginning, these steps should be more frequent. You are out of shape. And you don’t want to push yourself too much. But after a while, you can aim for more.
I am talking about goals – small and achievable goals. As you climb, you want to identify easier and more challenging goals. And you want to create a smooth progress that doesn’t throw you out of the cliff. For this reason, work with small and achievable goals.
Small goals help you counter your insecurities and give you a safe space.
And you don’t want to start fighting your fears with a series of failures. Therefore, your goals must be achievable.
3 – Take a break at each step.
You cannot climb a mountain in a day. I mean, you can do it if it’s 100 meters high. But what achievement would that be?
So take breaks and cherish your achievements often.
After each small goal, give yourself a small reward, a pat on the back.
And after each milestone, have a party.
Milestones are a great way to remember to cherish your achievements. And your confidence will suffer if you ignore them and never celebrate them.
Also, plan your parties – envision them. Thinking about the rewards will keep you motivated and increase your grit.
4 – Take care of your mental strength.
When you start climbing, many people will be cheering for you. But as you get higher, their voices will vanish. And somebody would have already left. So take care of your mental strength now that you are alone.
You can pick whatever practice helps you remain calm and self-centered. But mindfulness is one of the best ways to check your internal state.
Mindfulness will bring you many benefits. For example, you will build self-awareness and compassion. You will spot challenges in advance. And it will prepare you for future relapses or unexpected problems.
5 – Reach the peak of the mountain.
You are almost there. You almost did it. And that’s when the last breath of wind pushes you off the cliff.
When you are almost at the top, you are also more fragile. Your attention drops because of the fatigue and the false belief you finished. Also, you start thinking about the people who reached the top before you. And you lose focus on what matters – the final goal.
“Comparison is the theft of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt.
Comparison will always make you unhappy and insecure. And you know why? Because there will always be someone who did things better. Someone who climbed faster or reached higher heights. But if you can’t even cherish your successes, why did you even start?
The Challenge of the Week
Fight your fears and insecurities by trying to climb your dream mountain. Use the infographic below as a travel diary and a goal tracker. And don’t ever look down the cliff.
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Cosmin.
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